Toby Faye Mailman, LCSW

Licensed in New York · 25 years in practice

Toby Faye Mailman helps people facing stress, anxiety, trauma, depression, and relationship pain.

License and registration

LCSW, New York: 063392 · expires February 2028
NPI: 1447320882 · national provider identifier
Years in practice: 25
Languages: English, Spanish

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About Toby

Toby Faye Mailman helps people facing stress, anxiety, trauma, depression, and relationship pain. She supports those coping with grief, parenting strain, work-related pressure, and major life changes. Her tone is practical and direct, aiming to make next steps manageable.

She is a New York licensed clinical social worker - LCSW - with 25 years of practice. She has worked with adults from a wide range of cultural and ethnic backgrounds.

Background and approach

Sessions are offered in English and Spanish to suit different needs. In sessions she focuses on building a trusting relationship first. From that place she and the client look at strengths already present and practical skills to try.

She mixes approaches to match what each person needs rather than using a single method for everyone. Her toolbox includes cognitive behavioral techniques and emotion-focused work that help people change patterns and repair connections. She also uses attachment-based ideas to look at how past relationships influence current reactions.

The pace and mix of methods are set together with the client. Toby favors regular meetings, usually weekly or every other week, because steady contact helps progress. She also asks clients to give notice when they need to reschedule so sessions remain consistent.

Starting therapy is treated as a step-by-step process with clear next steps to follow.

Focus areas and approaches

Everything Toby lists on their public professional profile, in their own terms.

Stress, Anxiety
Trauma and abuse
Self esteem
Depression
Relationship issues
Grief
Parenting issues
Anger management
Career difficulties
Coping with life changes
Compassion fatigue
Abandonment
Caregiver issues and stress
Chronic pain, illness, and disability
Co-morbidity
Commitment issues
Communication problems
Control issues
Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
Domestic violence
Drug and alcohol addiction
First responder issues
Forgiveness
Guilt and shame
HIV / AIDS
Hoarding
Immigration issues
Mood disorders
Multicultural concerns
Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
Panic disorder and panic attacks
Personality disorders
Phobias
Post-traumatic stress
Self-harm
Sexual assault and abuse
Social anxiety and phobia
Women's issues

Approaches Toby names

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Online support

How therapeutic approaches fit into online care

Attachment-based work looks at how early relationships shape current patterns and feelings; it helps when past loss or mistrust makes connection and safety difficult. Cognitive behavioral therapy focuses on the links between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and offers concrete exercises to reduce anxiety and lift mood. Emotionally-focused work helps people recognize and shift strong emotional responses to repair relationships and reduce recurring conflict.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will listen to your concerns, goals, and preferences and then try methods that seem likely to help. Sessions can be adjusted over time if something isn’t working or if new issues arise, so the process stays collaborative.

Online formats make therapy more flexible. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation when that feels important. Phone sessions can fit into a shorter break or when bandwidth is limited. Live chat and text-based messaging let clients check in between sessions or use written check-ins when typing helps organize thoughts. These options let people keep therapy consistent around work, caregiving, or health needs while still using attachment, cognitive, and emotion-focused tools.

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Questions people ask

What concerns does this therapist address?

She works with stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, depression, low self-esteem, grief, parenting strain, anger, career stress, and compassion fatigue among other issues.

How would you describe the therapy style?

The style is collaborative and practical, focusing on building trust first and then developing skills the client can use day to day.

What is her professional background?

She has 25 years of clinical experience working with adult clients from diverse cultural and ethnic backgrounds.

Where is the therapist licensed and located?

The therapist holds a New York licensed clinical social worker credential and practices from New York.

Which languages are offered for sessions?

Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.

What session formats are available?

Sessions can be done via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.

How are fees and payments handled?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

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